Peace, connection, happiness and fulfillment are learnable skills.
When we are able to understand and communicate our needs with clarity, and with empathy for the universality of those needs, conflict leads to connection. The illusion of separation from self and others fades. Finally, we are at home with the world, and can work together to respond to the challenges we face.
John Kinyon and Ike Lasater have been refining their distinct Mediate Your Life approach since 2003. Building on their decades of work with Marshall Rosenberg, founder of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), Mediate Your Life has provided workshops and year training programs throughout the U.S. and in countries around the world. This training helps people gain the skills and capacity to create true dialogue and new possibilities for connection and collaboration – and prepares them to approach conflict as an opportunity.
At its core, the Mediate Your Life training is about listening to—and really hearing—ourselves and others. It is about increasing our capacity for empathy so that when triggered we can overcome the body’s natural “fight-flight-freeze” reaction. The process teaches how to replace conflict with true collaboration, new possibilities, and compassionate support.
Together and individually Ike and John have mediated conflicts with couples, families, businesses, institutions, and legal contexts. Ike Lasater is a former trial attorney who co-founded a thriving San Francisco law firm. John Kinyon has a background in clinical psychology and is a certified trainer with the international Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC).
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How it all began…
John Kinyon and Ike Lasater’s partnership began in the wake of US military actions that followed 9/11, with a 2002 journey to the Pakistan-Afghanistan border. During a training with Afghan tribal elders, John and Ike experienced the power and universality of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), which succeeded despite the eight languages in the room. Galvanized by this experience, they began developing the NVC Mediation training program, which ultimately became Mediate Your Life.