About Mediate Your Life Founders John Kinyon and Ike Lasater
John Kinyon provides training, coaching, and facilitation/mediation around the U.S. and around the world. He is a speaker and author, and has helped people resolve conflicts peacefully and collaboratively for over two decades. John is co-developer and founder of the Mediate Your Life training program, and worked closely for over a decade with Marshall Rosenberg, founder of the international work of Nonviolent Communication (NVC).
John has been a trainer of the Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC) since 2000. He co-founded the Bay Area’s NVC organization and has been a trainer for the International Center for Nonviolent Communication since 2000, and a leader in the world-wide NVC community.
John earned a BA from the University of San Francisco, where he studied psychology and philosophy – earning a degree in clinical psychology from Penn State University. During his five years of doctoral training, he worked as a psychotherapist with individuals and groups and as a research assistant at the Penn State Stress and Anxiety Disorders Institute. After graduate school, John helped launch and develop a small commercial business before embracing full-time communication and conflict resolution work.
John lives with his wife and three children in the San Francisco Bay Area. Click here to learn more about John.
Ike Lasater, mediator and trainer, coaches individuals and organizations in communication and conflict resolution skills. He practiced as a civil trial attorney in the state and federal courts of California and subsequently trained extensively with psychologist Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D., founder of Nonviolent Communication (NVC).
In the legal context, he experienced “mediation” as a process of threatening and cajoling the parties to reach settlement. That changed when he encountered NVC. Ike grew to see that mediation can be an opportunity for the parties to hear each other’s needs and thereby truly understand what is fueling their conflict. This typically leads to much more satisfying outcomes for the parties. NVC’s approach was congruent with his values, developed through long-term practices of Zen meditation, yoga (he cofounded The Yoga Journal in 1975) and aikido.
Ike has served on the boards of the Center for Nonviolent Communication and the Association for Dispute Resolution of Northern California, and served on the mediation panel for the United States District Court for the Northern District of California. He is the co-author of From Conflict to Connection: Transforming Difficult Conversations into Peaceful Resolutions (2015) Choosing Peace (2014), Words That Work in Business: A Practical Guide to Effective Communication in the Workplace (2010) and What We Say Matters: Practicing Nonviolent Communication (2009)..
In addition to facilitating Mediate Your Life trainings, Ike coaches individuals, couples and organizations in conflict, and acts as a mediator.