Resources for Further Study

Resources for Further Study and Reflection

Learning Nonviolent Communication

Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life, by Marshall Rosenberg, 2003

Speak Peace in a World of Conflict: What You Say Next Will Change Your World, by Marshall Rosenberg, 2005

Audio featuring Marshall Rosenberg:
– NVC Training Course (9 CDs)
– Speaking Peace (2 CDs)
– CDs from International Intensive Training with Marshall

Video featuring Marshall Rosenberg
– The Basics of Nonviolent Communication (2 DVDs)
– Making Life Wonderful (4 DVDs)

Also search YouTube videos for “Marshall Rosenberg.”

The Center for Nonviolent Communication

NVC Academy
PuddleDancer Press

NVC Boston
Power of Compassion – Houston NVC

Growing Compassion

Other Complementary Resources

I Thought It Was Just Me (But It Isn’t): Making the Journey from “What Will People Think?” to “I Am Enough,” by Brené Brown, 2007
See also Brené Brown’s TED talk on vulnerability.

Why Nations Fail: The Origins of Power, Prosperity, and Poverty, by Daron Acemoglu and James A. Robinson, 2012

When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times, by Pema Chodron, 1997

Comfortable with Uncertainty: 108 Teachings on Cultivating Fearlessness and Compassion, by Pema Chodron, 2010

Taking the Leap: Freeing Ourselves from Old Habits and Fears, by Pema Chodron, 2011

Super Brain: Unleashing the Explosive Power of Your Brain to Maximize Health, Happiness, and Spiritual Well-Being, by Deepak Chopra and Rudolph Tanzi, 2012

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change, by Stephen R. Covey, 2013

The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business, by Charles Duhigg, 2012

Incognito: The Secret Lives of the Brain, by David Eagleman, 2012

Awakening Earth: Exploring the Evolution of Human Culture and Consciousness, by Duane Elgin 1993

The Checklist Manifesto: How to Get Things Right, by Atul Gawande, 2011

Who’s in Charge?: Free Will and the Science of the Brain, by Michael Gazzaniga, 2012

Violence: Reflections on a National Epidemic, by James Gilligan, M.D., 1997
(Ike recommends p. 111 on shame as “the most carefully guarded secret held by violent men”.)

Moral Tribes: Emotion, Reason, and the Gap Between Them, by Joshua Greene, 2013

On Combat: The Psychology and Physiology of Deadly Conflict in War and in Peace, by Lt. Col. Dave Grossman, 2008
(Ike recommends chapter 2 on the importance of training in the conditions you are expecting to encounter.)

The Righteous Mind: Why Good People Are Divided by Politics and Religion, by Jonathan Haidt, 2013

Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm, and Confidence, by Rick Hanson, 2013

Thinking, Fast and Slow, by Daniel Kahneman, 2011

Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life, by Byron Katie, 2003
See also Byron Katie’s website:

What We Say Matters: Practicing Nonviolent Communication, by Judith Hansen Lasater and Ike K. Lasater, 2009.

Words That Work in Business: A Practical Guide to Effective Communication in the Workplace, by Ike Lasater with Julie Stiles, 2010

See also Ike Lasater’s Words That Work website ( for copious written reflections on NVC by Ike, John Kinyon, and Julie Stiles, including the following:

“Mediation and Mediator Self-Care: A Nonviolent Communication Approach,” by Ike Lasater & John Kinyon, with Julie Stiles, 2010

“Becoming a Better Mediator by Mediating Your Inner Dialogue,” by Ike Lasater and John Kinyon with Julie Stiles, 2009

“The Three-Chair Model for Learning NVC Mediation: Developing Capacity for Mindful Presence, Connection and Skill with NVC,” by Ike Lasater and John Kinyon with Julie Stiles, 2009

“Skill Building and Personal Growth Through NVC Mediation Triad Practice,” by Ike Lasater with Julie Stiles, 2009

“What is NVC Mediation: A Powerful Model for Healing and Reconciling Conflict,” by Ike Lasater with Julie Stiles, 2009

“The Origin and Resolution of Conflict,” by Ike Lasater with Julie Stiles, 2008

“Group Decision Making: A Nonviolent Communication Perspective,” by Ike Lasater with Julie Stiles, 2008

“The Future of NVC Mediation: Where We Have Been, Where We Are, Where We Might Go,” by Ike Lasater with Julie Stiles, 2009

“Using NVC to Make a Living Doing NVC,” by Ike Lasater with Julie Stiles, 2009

“NVC Conflict Coaching,” by Ike Lasater with Julie Stiles, 2008

“Working with Enemy Images Before and During Mediations,” by Ike Lasater with Julie Stiles, 2006

“Accreted Mediation: Building Clarity and Connection,” by Ike Lasater with Julie Stiles, 2006

“Working with One Party: A Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Approach to Family Conflicts,” by Ike Lasater with Julie Stiles, 2006

The Empathy Factor: Your Competitive Advantage for Personal, Team, and Business Success, by Marie R. Miyashiro, 2011

Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself, by Kristin Neff, 2011
See also Kristin Neff’s TEDx talk on the space between self-esteem and self-compassion.

Words Can Change Your Brain: 12 Conversation Strategies to Build Trust, Resolve Conflict, and Increase Intimacy, by Andrew Newberg and Mark Robert Waldman, 2012

Change Anything: The New Science of Personal Success, by Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, David Maxfield, Ron McMillan, Al Switzler, 2012

A Way of Being, by Carl Rogers, 1980

On Becoming a Person, by Carl Rogers, 1961

On Personal Power: Inner Strength and its Revolutionary Impact, by Carl Rogers, 1977

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom, by Don Miguel Ruiz, 1997

The I of the Storm: Embracing Conflict, Creating Peace, by Gary Simmons, 2001

Parenting without Power Struggles, by Susan Stiffelman, 2010

A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose, by Eckhart Tolle, 2005

The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Empowerment, by Eckhart Tolle, 2004

Stillness Speaks, by Eckhart Tolle, 2003
For video, visit
Also search for “Eckhart Tolle.”

The Third Side: Why We Fight and How We Can Stop, by William L. Ury (Sep 1, 2000)

Getting To Yes: Negotiating an Agreement Without Giving In, by Roger Fisher, William L. Ury and Bruce Patton, 2011

Pilgrim (2012) and other books of poetry by David Whyte

A Theory of Everything: An Integral Vision for Business, Politics, Science and Spirituality, by Ken Wilbur, 2000

Integral Life Practice: A 21st-Century Blueprint for Physical Health, Emotional Balance, Mental Clarity, and Spiritual Awakening, by Ken Wilbur, 2008
See also Ken Wilbur’s website:

Mindfulness: An Eight-Week Plan for Finding Peace in a Frantic World, by Mark Williams, Danny Penman, Jon Kabat-Zinn, 2012

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