Choosing Peace Program: Resolving Conflicts Internally Training, Berkeley, CA


June 22, 2017 1:00 pm to
June 25, 2017 5:00 pm


Rudramandir 830 Bancroft Way Berkeley, CA 94710

Everyone knows that peace has to begin with oneself, but not many people know how to do it.
– Thich Nhat Hanh

A life changes one conversation at a time. When you change your life, the world changes. The first conversation to have is with yourself.

To be truly at ease with yourself and with those around you is transformative. The first step is to approach every conflict – whether internal or external – as an opportunity. The Mediate Your Life Resolving Conflicts Internally workshop is a 4-day training that integrates Compassionate Communication (Nonviolent Communication, NVC) with mindfulness and a mediation framework to be able to navigate difficult conversations within, whether it’s related to another person or between warring parts of yourself. Learn to respond to challenges and conflicts from the inside out.

Peace, connection, happiness and fulfillment are learnable skills.

Perhaps you need to prepare yourself to have that difficult conversation with another person. Perhaps you’ve had an upsetting conversation and want to process and recover from it. Or perhaps you want to reconcile the different parts of yourself that are in conflict.

In the Resolving Conflicts Internally workshop, you will learn to use a mediation framework to facilitate these conflicts internally. By shifting into a “mediator mind,” you will metaphorically move into the third “mediator” chair to witness different parts of yourself, or imagine a conversation between yourself and another person, and thus be present, mindful and able to respond and act in ways you feel good about afterwards.

Advocate for yourself with yourself.

If you’ve ever experienced intrusive thoughts of guilt or shame, or found yourself judging or “beating yourself up,” then you know that banishing these thoughts doesn’t work.

We all have aspects of ourselves that sabotage our best intentions. If these internal “voices,” which are quite often judgmental, cause you to feel “stuck” and conflicted about reaching your goals, then Resolving Conflicts Internally is for you.

Negotiate peace with yourself. Create the life you want.

We teach you how to mediate between these different parts of yourself until they collaborate to find a shared sense of connection. The goal of this training is not only to find internal relief, peace and ease- but to also discover clarity about what action to take.

Real skills for real transformationFour days that will change your life.

In this workshop, you will learn:

  • A mediation “map” for transforming within yourself “enemy images” of others (sometimes of the people closest to us!). The process gives the ability to provide within yourself empathic understanding and connection for yourself and for the other person, and from this discover creative new possibilities for taking effective, compassionate action, including preparing to have a difficult conversation
  • A map for transforming self-judgment, particularly around having difficult conversations, into self-understanding, appreciation, and positive learning
  • A map for generating deeper self-compassion when you are caught in harsher self-criticism, and from this finding new strategies and agreements with yourself to better create the life and relationships you want
  • A map for mediating between “warring” parts of yourself and finding clarity and inner alignment when caught in internal conflict, angst, or confusion over a decision to make or a direction to move in

The training is highly experiential and interactive in a warm, supportive, safe learning environment. You learn through real life demonstrations, in-depth practice in dyads and triads, supportive coaching, giving and receiving positive peer feedback, and group sharing. There is the opportunity, if you wish, to work with real situations from your personal and work life, so you not only gain deep skill development, you also benefit from the personal growth and transformation. You also become part of a connected learning community, both during and after the workshop, so you can practice together to deepen and integrate the learning over time in daily life, and receive invaluable support with challenges in your life.

The full Choosing Peace Immersion Program consists of three 4-day intensives. These three intensives are most powerful and transformative when done all together as a full year training, however they are designed so that they can be taken individually as stand-alone trainings, and in any order.

Conflict to Connection: Feb 9-12,2017
Resolving Conflicts Internally: June 22-25,2017
Reconciliation and Healing: Sept 28-Oct 1, 2017

For first year participants:
$650 for single intensive.
$600 early bird rate until MAY 25.
$1,000 for June and Sept intensives.
For second year and beyond participants, there are reduced tuition rates (click on registration link for more info). Inquire about tuition payment flexibility if you are in need of this.



12-1pm:       Onsite check-in
1-5pm:         First session
7-9pm:         Evening session

9-12pm        Morning session
12-2pm        Lunch
2-5pm          Afternoon session
5-7pm          Dinner
7-9pm          Evening session

9-12pm        Morning session
12-2pm        Lunch
2-5pm          Afternoon session
5-7pm          Dinner
7-9pm          Evening session

9-12pm        Morning session
12-2pm        Lunch
2-5pm          Afternoon session

For further info about the venue, see

We hope to see you there!


Questions? Call Schena at 510.919.5847 or e-mail